Moving your family across the world to a new country is to put it bluntly ,scary . For what ever reason you decide to undertake such an adventure, you need to follow some basic rules to make your move a success .
I moved to Canada over 10 years ago and in that time I have learnt a thing or two about moving and more importantly ,settling in to a new nation . Remember you are and always be an immigrant, where ever you move to , so get used to a description that does not sit well with some people. So if your going to do it? Do it right .
1/ Get out and Make some friends
I moved to a country that speaks English ( Don’t ask someone from Quebec , you might get a different answer) so it was a lot easier to get out there, meet people and build friendships . In the early days it is down to you to make the effort .This is a must .You will always have the “nosey” people who approach you , but in my experience don’t waste your efforts with them .If you have children , a great way to meet people is through their schools and any clubs they join . Try to avoid joining clubs that are full of people who come from your homeland , as this will not help the process ( Not unless you want to sit around and reminisce about how good the homeland was , so good, you all left)
Most people become an immigrant through their desire to improve their standard of living , both for themselves and that of their families . For some reason they then try to make there lives the same as they were back in their own country .You have to realise that basic ways of life vary in different countries . Simple every day tasks, like parking your car , driving in general , shopping, going to work, watching TV , going out for a meal , will all be different to what your’re used to .Yes, some of these tasks will be harder and not so pleasurable . As they say here “suck it up princess” So, the quicker you accept this, adjust to your new world and stop comparing , the easier life will become .
3/ Be Open Minded
This one was the hardest for me to achieve . I have always been used to doing things one way. My way . You have to open you mind up to accepting new ways of doing things , as people are not going to change their ways just to make you feel comfortable .If I can do it anyone can .Open up your mind to the new experiences with alternative cultures and a different way of living .
A close second for me . Never been the most patient person, however if you don’t want to end your days by hitting your head against a brick wall, you will require patience by the bucket load . When moving countries you will have to deal with those strange individuals called ” civil servants” or as I like to call them, “idiots”. Despite the best efforts of modern technology , paperwork is still king . Your whole life will be recorded , scrutinized, checked , double checked , sent back because you ticked the wrong box in section 123 subsection 567, then finally just when you are about to give in , a government immigration worker will actually put in a full weeks work and put his little stamp on your documentation and your life is back in order …………………eventually . Be prepared these people are not normal , trust me .Hang in there, tough it out , it will be ok ….maybe.
5/ Be yourself
You will always be different in your new country , you may look different , definitely sound different , dress differently , eat differently and generally will never blend in . So don’t bother trying to be someone you’re not . I still wet myself laughing when I see people dressed and acting in a way that they think they should to blend in , when in actual fact they stand out even more.
When I arrived in Canada, my flight landed at 3 in the morning , in a city called Saskatoon . Where ?I hear you say. Exactly . Its was snowing hard and at -30 degrees ( yes Minus!)it was bloody horrible, my immediate reaction was turn around and wait for the next flight out. Thankfully,I didn’t. I made my way to the hotel, stayed there for 3 weeks, completed my training with the company I was to work for ( lying to my wife on a daily basis on how great it was ) then moved to my next location of Calgary .
So to summarize. In these days of the internet, if you think you can research your country of choice and have everything figured before you arrive,then think its going to be plain sailing ahead , you are sadly mistaken and my advice is to stay at home, and live in your comfort zone .
At some point you have to jump in feet first and just go for it .Be Brave and be lucky.